if I assume that everyone's utility function is exactly like mine
Did you just switch context again? My claim is about what happens if everyone strictly prefers to tie rather than to lose. In this case, given others' strategies, any individual's optimal strategy is to answer 2/3 of the average. The only way everyone can answer 2/3 of the average is if everyone plays 0, and this is the only strategy that nobody has an incentive to deviate from.
Maybe I'm being dense, but bear with me for a moment....
Assume: I get X utilons from winning, Y from tying, and Z from losing, where X >= Y >= Z. Everyone plying the game has exactly the same preferences.
If I (and everyone else) play 0, I get Y utilons. Straightforward.
If I play a value that gives me W chance of winning outright, and (1-W) chance of losing (with an inconsequential chance of tying because I added a small random offset), I will gain W X - (1 - W) Z utilons on average.
Assume W is fairly low, the worst and most likely case being 1/N wh...
I'd like to play a game with you. Send me, privately, a real number between 0 and 100, inclusive. (No funny business. If you say "my age", I'm going to throw it out.) The winner of this game is the person who, after a week, guesses the number closest to 2/3 of the average guess. I will reveal the average guess, and will confirm the winner's claims to have won, but I will reveal no specific guesses.
Suppose that you're a rational person. You also know that everyone else who plays this game is rational, you know that they know that, you know that they know that, and so on. Therefore, you conclude that the best guess is P. Since P is the rational guess to make, everyone will guess P, and so the best guess to make is P*2/3. This gives an equation that we can solve to get P = 0.
I propose that this game be used as a sort of test to see how well Aumann's agreement theorem applies to a group of people. The key assumption the theorem makes--which, as taw points out, is often overlooked--is that the group members are all rational and honest and also have common knowledge of this. This same assumption implies that the average guess will be 0. The farther from the truth this assumption is, the farther the average guess is going to be from 0, and the farther Aumann's agreement theorem is from applying to the group.
Update (June 20): The game is finished; sorry for the delay in getting the results. The average guess was about 13.235418197890148 (a number which probably contains as much entropy as its length), meaning that the winning guess is the one closest to 8.823612131926765. This number appears to be significantly below the number typical for groups of ordinary people, but not dramatically so. 63% of guesses were too low, indicating that people were overall slightly optimistic about the outcome (if you interpret lower as better). Anyway, I will notify the winner ahora mismo.