he doesn't understand my feelings and behavior, so I'm not going to him for advice on how to live my life.
And you expect complete strangers to do better? I'm not sure that's rational.
Conversely, if you've adequately constrained the problem for us, surely you can adequately constrain it for him?
Perhaps it is possible that your parent(s) "doesn't understand you" but still internally expects to, and so does worse than someone who doesn't know you or knows you from recent experience.
Here's our place to discuss Less Wrong topics that have not appeared in recent posts. Have fun building smaller brains inside of your brains (or not, as you please).