No, I understood that, what I meant was if you're having trouble communicating, and repeatedly saying X but transmitting the wrong meaning, you might also be using incorrect heuristics to determine what to say to convey a particular concept.

Of course this is just a possibility, and depends on what sort of person you're talking to! It sounds like you're talking about relatively unreflective people, in which case most of the blame for miscommunication can safely be assigned to them. It's just that this is a problem nerds sometimes run in to.