That is verbal behavior that goes above and beyond just truthfully stating things.

How so? If the first one is what the person actually means, then blowing smoke up my ass about it doesn't help me.

AFAICT, you are still arguing a bottom line: that truthful verbalization about one's internal state can be ethically bad. I won't claim that NO such verbalization can exist as a mathematical absolute, but I haven't yet seen you offer an example that's bad by anything other than your own definition of "ethics" -- i.e., what makes you feel bad.

So, how can something be wrong that has no bad results, probabilistically OR actually?