More explicit:

[What you were talking about] is a good way to teach it, even though it is somewhat of a lie (similar to teaching Newtonian physics). It usually isn't healthy to teach about [the other part of the asshole equation that is glossed over by that approach,] that things that are actually perceived as a negative quality by women can also give desired results to men.

There are two messages to convey:

• Some things you (naive guys) think will be a bad experience for women are actually a good experience, healthy for them and perceived as desirable.
• Some things that are absolutely bad, unhealthy and perceived as undesirable by women can also be used to attract them.

The first of these (and the one that you mention) is a better subject of education. The second is a recipe for excuses, passive aggression and bitterness for people who don't already have an appreciation for the first point.