Or also when the male overrides a clear desire of hers?

With trivial desires it probably applies. With significant desires not so much. The line between the two is probably fuzzy but has obvious extremes. How strongly the woman holds the desire matters too, I suppose. I don't know if I can say more without context: I don' t teach people how to be attractive so I'm not good at spelling all the intricacies out. I just know enough to make it work for me.

What if the man takes charge and turns out to be wrong about the outcome?

You'd have to be more specific but I suspect the outcome usually doesn't matter.