People often talk as if these rules were universal. In fact we have very little evidence for their universality. We don't even have convincing evidence that they held more often than not in ancestral environment, even though it sounds plausible.

In particular is the second paragraph of your comment referring to the modern world, or a typical ancestral environment, or both, or do you claim it's universal?

Right now, male and female lifespans don't differ that much until long after fertility, so different life expectancies don't matter (and historically either of them could be longer, for example female infants might be getting less care than male infants - hard evidence is needed to claim typicality).

Calling industrial accidents and violence high risk strategies sounds very weird. It's like saying living in poor part of the city, or being black is a "high risk strategy" - it's not strategy, it's society abusing some of its members, and them not being able to do much about it.

And as for the association between high status and length of fertile life - that's exactly my point, it's one of those things that are commonly claimed as if they were widely proven, but there's very little evidence for them, except maybe for extremely low status people.