Eh. I tend to agree with CronoDAS. Not that he's objectively right that one is better off escaping from the world rather than dealing with it, but that his utility function is really screwed up by most people's standards, and that "correcting" it is extremely difficult. It's not at all simply a matter of self-limiting beliefs. In my case, at least, it's a matter of a great deal of adverse conditioning that took place when I was raised, and maybe a bit of bad genes. It's a matter of accurate assessments about the world being more emotionally disturbing to me than for most people, at a level more basic than that of beliefs.
(Note that I'm doing better recently, finally having found some meds with a decently strong placebo effect.)
2:45:24 PM Katja Grace: The main thing that puts me off in online dating profiles is lack of ambition to save the world
2:45:35 PM Katja Grace: Or do anything much
2:48:03 PM Michael Blume: *nods*
2:48:07 PM Michael Blume: this is indeed a problem
2:57:55 PM Katja Grace: Maybe there is a dating site for smart ambitious nerds somewhere
2:58:25 PM Katja Grace: Need to set up lw extension perhaps
2:59:02 PM Michael Blume: haha, yes ^^
3:00:40 PM Katja Grace: Plenty of discussion on why few girls, how to get girls, nobody ever says 'oy, girls on lw, want to get together some time?'
3:01:14 PM Michael Blume: somebody really should say that
3:01:34 PM Michael Blume: hell, I'm tempted to just copy that IM into a top-level post and click 'submit'
3:01:48 PM Katja Grace: Haha dare you to