Can you say what you want without appealing to this "society"? "Society" is only people dealing with each other. What do you want some individual person to do, or not do, to fix the problems you see? Because I do not recognise the picture of "society" that you are drawing. I have never encountered the "Romantic" view outside of advice columns in women's magazines. The real people that I know generally do think deliberately about -- taskify, if you must -- how they deal with people. Just read a random collection of LiveJournals to see examples. Read SF perzines. People -- the successful ones -- think about this stuff all the time.

However, they may not be able to give you any more advice about it that they could about how to ride a bicycle. And they're under no obligation to make the effort.