I'm with you on this. One small step I've taken is to compile all the rules I've aggregated from various sources about when and where it's okay to touch a woman (in the sense of "it would not be considered out-of-line to do this, though you may be politely asked to stop") into a chart. When I posted it on another forum, it became simultaneously the funniest and truest artwork I have ever produced.

ETA: Okay, because of the interest, I'll post it. Some disclaimers:

1) This is intended to give socially inept guys assurance against false accusations of being a "perv" or "too aggressive". Adhering to the chart will only mean that you will not be so labeled, and that women that complain to their friends or the venue's manager will receive little sympathy. It does not mean it is the optimal time to touch or that you won't be turned down (you should thereafter stop), just that you are within acceptable behavior boundaries and should stand your ground if you get flak.

2) To make the image less offensive, a man's body is color-coded. It refers to a woman, of course.

3) You can zoom in, at least if you permit javascript from enough domains.

With that said, here's the diagram. You'll probably laugh, or deem it true, or both.