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The reason bars bore you, is probably that you lack the social skills. Practice happens to be a way to develop skills.
It boils down to the fact that you aren't willing to pay the price of experiencing some boredom to develop social skills. It simply a silly constraint.
As Christian Szegedy wrote above, bars where there's partner dancing such as Salsa, Swing or Tango are probably the best way.
You even have a lot of precedural stuff to keep your mind occupied (not feel boredom) when you concentrate on dancing stuff.
In some sense a lot of people feel that they need the procedural stuff to be able to train social skills without getting bored.
Freakonomics had a section where they came to the conclusion that good parenting isn't about what actions a parent completes but about what kind of a person the parent happens to be.
Exposure to social interactions changes yourself. If you happen to lack social skills it means that you have to go out of your comfort zone. It your choice whether you are willing to pay the price.
That seems like an odd hypothesis. "Bored" is not how I describe my emotional state when I'm engaging in some activity for which I lack skill.
For my part, I find bars boring because there's nothing entertaining to do there. I don't even see how people have interesting social interactions in them; most bars I've been to have been very loud, and the people have been drinking excessively, such that one cannot even have an interesting conversation. But then, my hearing is terrible in loud places, so YMMV.
If you lack good social skills the amount you talk while you are in bars is lower than it would be if you have good skills. If you talk less there's more time to be bored.
If you dance more you are also less likely to be bored.