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The reason bars bore you, is probably that you lack the social skills. Practice happens to be a way to develop skills.
It boils down to the fact that you aren't willing to pay the price of experiencing some boredom to develop social skills. It simply a silly constraint.
As Christian Szegedy wrote above, bars where there's partner dancing such as Salsa, Swing or Tango are probably the best way.
You even have a lot of precedural stuff to keep your mind occupied (not feel boredom) when you concentrate on dancing stuff.
In some sense a lot of people feel that they need the procedural stuff to be able to train social skills without getting bored.
Freakonomics had a section where they came to the conclusion that good parenting isn't about what actions a parent completes but about what kind of a person the parent happens to be.
Exposure to social interactions changes yourself. If you happen to lack social skills it means that you have to go out of your comfort zone. It your choice whether you are willing to pay the price.
Not the grandparent commenter, but bars bore me because I don't find socializing with strangers in a bar setting to be particularly interesting. For me, it'd be like riding a unicycle - something I don't know how to do, but I can tell I wouldn't enjoy that much anyway
What about going there with people you already know?
If I want to spend time with them, a bar is far from the optimal place to do it.
The post you quote doesn't advocate going there for the purpose of enjoyment but to achieve secondary objectives.
If you have a goal, and path A to the goal is boring, that doesn't mean that going down path A is automatically out of question.
You might find a better path than A, but if A is the only thing you are left with, go down A even if it's boring if it brings you towards your goal.