I'm not sure, maybe, but more of a problem here is to select your goals. The choice seems to be arbitrary, and as far as I can tell, human psychology doesn't really even support having value systems that go deeper than that "lip service" + conformism state.
But I'm really confused when it comes to this, so I thought I could try describing my confusion here :)
I think you need to meet better humans. Or just read about some.
John Brown, Martin Luther, Galileo Galilei, Abraham Lincoln, Charles Darwin, Mohandas Gandhi
Can you make sense of those biographies without going deeper than "lip service" + conformism state?
Edit: And I don't even necessarily mean that these people were supremely altruistic or anything. You can add Adolph Hitler to the list too.
ITT we talk about whatever.