I tend to think of my brain as a thing with certain needs. Companionship, recognition, physical contact, novelty, etc. Activities that provide these tend to persist. Figure out what your dysfunctional actions provide you in terms of your needs. Then try and find activities that provide these but aren't so bad and try and replace the dysfunctional bits. Also change the situation you are in so that the dysfunctional default actions don't automatically trigger.

My dream is to find a group of like minded people that I can socialise and work with. SIAI is very tempting in that regard.