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"While you're at it, give some thought to your intelligence types, categorize your love language1 - anything that carves up person-space and puts you in a bit of it."
Hey Alicorn. I think what you're trying to do with luminosity is awesome, but I think it's important to note that it's very easy to just make up different ways of categorizing people (with no evidence), just like it's easy to make up your own school of psychology (http://lesswrong.com/lw/2j/schools_proliferating_without_evidence/). For example, while people certainly have different cognitive skills, Gardner's "multiple intelligences" model has largely been disproven (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theory_of_multiple_intelligences#Lack_of_empirical_evidence), as it turns out that most of the "multiple intelligences" correlate well with each other.
Yes. I agree completely. This is why you saturate and have low standards for throwing things out the window (after extracting information from the fact that it's something you want to throw out the window).
I approve of the fearless use of the admittedly cheesy "love languages".
I skimmed the categories and don't see any relevant difference between gifts and service.
I'd also rather think about love acts as providing evidence that either:
1) My partner is able and willing to please me.
2) My partner values me so greatly that I'm unafraid of abandonment for a more desirable alternative.
With 1), I much prefer if she enjoys something for her own sake that just happens to please me (because it adds to my security as well). But I'm also especially pleased if I know she values the act much more highly because she intends to make me value her. Or maybe I'm so secure that I would say, "I'm already convinced - let's do something we both value for something other than a token of our love."
I'd guess that most people want as much as possible of both. It is possible that people can be classified into a few simple types per what "love language" most effectively achieves these ends in them.