MBlume comments on Ureshiku Naritai - Less Wrong

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Comment author: CronoDAS 09 April 2010 09:22:23PM 4 points [-]

Cultivate social spontaneity. This one is hard to define, so I'll give an example. I was waiting for a bus and a woman I'd never met before in an awesome homemade knitted cloak tottering along on crutches said she loved my jacket.

WARNING. If you're male and you attempt to talk to a woman on public transportation, you may very well end up making her extremely uncomfortable. This xkcd comic triggered a major backlash.

Comment author: MBlume 09 April 2010 11:37:25PM 6 points [-]

Wait, seriously? Back when I was single I used to chat up girls on trains every chance I got. Never went anywhere, but never saw any signs of discomfort either.

Comment author: Alicorn 09 April 2010 11:40:05PM 7 points [-]

I'm... extremely biased... but I can't imagine getting the icky vibes from you that cause discomfort, even in a non-escapable space. You simply don't come off as remotely scary.

Comment author: steven0461 09 April 2010 11:56:35PM 17 points [-]

It's true. MBlume is the sort of person who could run up to someone while wearing a Nazi uniform, covered in blood, with swords in both hands, shouting about an imminent nuclear blast, all without coming off as threatening.

Comment author: ata 10 April 2010 12:29:37AM 24 points [-]

MBlume is the sort of person who could run up to someone while wearing a Nazi uniform, covered in blood, with swords in both hands, shouting about an imminent nuclear blast, all without coming off as threatening.

It's true. I've seen him do it.

Comment author: Airedale 10 April 2010 12:06:14AM *  16 points [-]

I'm... extremely biased... but I can definitely imagine getting the icky vibes from you, Steven, that cause discomfort, especially in a non-escapable space. You simply come across as really creepy.

[Full disclosure: I am married to Steven.]

Comment author: CronoDAS 09 April 2010 11:52:51PM 4 points [-]

I have a horrible tendency to come across as a creepy stalker. :(

Comment author: Alicorn 10 April 2010 12:01:13AM 2 points [-]

If I saw video of you I might be able to offer tips, but I can't promise they'll help.

Comment author: CronoDAS 10 April 2010 12:48:21AM 2 points [-]

Fortunately, this is one problem that I've had that I've almost completely managed to solve. (And in at least one case, outside observers agreed that it wasn't my fault.)

Comment author: oliverbeatson 10 April 2010 03:05:24AM 4 points [-]

Did it involve facial hair? Often does.

Comment author: CronoDAS 10 April 2010 07:12:52AM 1 point [-]

Did it involve facial hair? Often does.

I don't understand this post at all.

Comment author: Airedale 10 April 2010 02:07:52PM *  6 points [-]

I would guess that oliverbeatson is suggesting that other things being equal, a man with facial hair (at least of a certain type) will come across as more of a creepy stalker than one without. I have picked this idea up from friends as well.

If the facial hair idea is true, it makes MBlume's non-threatingness (discussed elsewhere in the thread) all the more noteworthy given his facial hair handicap. Although maybe if MBlume combined the Nazi uniform with facial hair in the form of a Hitler mustache, he would appear threatening.

Comment author: NancyLebovitz 10 April 2010 02:41:28PM 3 points [-]

I'll tentatively suggest that creepiness isn't so much a matter of grooming (good, bad, non-standard, specific details) as an appearance of clinginess. It's an impression that the creepy man wants to get too close too fast and won't go away.

This is not the same thing as being frightening.

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