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I have a horrible tendency to come across as a creepy stalker. :(
If I saw video of you I might be able to offer tips, but I can't promise they'll help.
Fortunately, this is one problem that I've had that I've almost completely managed to solve. (And in at least one case, outside observers agreed that it wasn't my fault.)
Did it involve facial hair? Often does.
I don't understand this post at all.
I would guess that oliverbeatson is suggesting that other things being equal, a man with facial hair (at least of a certain type) will come across as more of a creepy stalker than one without. I have picked this idea up from friends as well.
If the facial hair idea is true, it makes MBlume's non-threatingness (discussed elsewhere in the thread) all the more noteworthy given his facial hair handicap. Although maybe if MBlume combined the Nazi uniform with facial hair in the form of a Hitler mustache, he would appear threatening.
I'll tentatively suggest that creepiness isn't so much a matter of grooming (good, bad, non-standard, specific details) as an appearance of clinginess. It's an impression that the creepy man wants to get too close too fast and won't go away.
This is not the same thing as being frightening.