wedrifid comments on Eight Short Studies On Excuses - Less Wrong

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Comment author: wedrifid 30 September 2010 03:14:20PM *  3 points [-]

I think the default is something like believing that what one says is close enough to what one means, and the other person is obligated to pick up on what one means.

"If they don't they clearly lack ingroup connections, social awareness, status and are less likely to be the kind of people that are valuable allies. I should shun them." (For example.)

Comment author: Relsqui 30 September 2010 07:03:20PM 3 points [-]

"If they don't they clearly lack ingroup connections, social awareness, status and are less likely to be the kind of people that are valuable allies. I should shun them."

Yup. Not consciously, of course. I wonder if, generally, speaking, people don't instinctively distinguish between not knowing something and not caring about it. Hence ignorance of facts being conflated with stupidity about a topic, as well as the instinctive avoidance of people who don't already know the social rules of a community.

Comment author: NancyLebovitz 29 June 2013 02:04:46PM 0 points [-]

I wonder if, generally, speaking, people don't instinctively distinguish between not knowing something and not caring about it

That's plausible-- it would also explain way sometimes people try to increase motivation (reward, punishment, pep talks) without explaining how to do whatever it is.

Comment author: NancyLebovitz 30 September 2010 03:32:56PM 0 points [-]

It can work that way. Or "If I keep repeating the same words, they'll get it." Or "If I yell at them, they'll get it."