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I think a lot of what I'm disagreeing with you and blueberry about is this assumption that meat-market type bars and clubs, and the PUA style tactics that may work well in those environments, are a representative sample of "typical social behavior"
PUA style tactics are predominantly a reverse-engineering of naturalistic behaviors. PUAs didn't invent status games, they just try to copy them.
On what population do you base your view of "typical social behavior"? I do think that bars and clubs are pretty representative of the behavior of extraverts of average IQ. This is just what extraverted 100 IQ homo sapiens do when you put them in a room with a little ethanol. Such behavior may not be representative of the average introvert who is lower in sensation-seeking, but average IQ extraverts are a pretty big slice of humanity.
Bars and clubs may contain a disproportionate amount of status behavior, but this is just on the higher end of the continuum of status behavior among typical homo sapiens.
People in relationships push each other all the time to see how the other person will react. Even friends not of each other's preferred gender do this. You may be taking the "buy me a drink" example too literally.
I don't think people have been talking about "PUA style tactics," as much as about normal social relationships and interactions. You're right that they may be more exaggerated at a bar scene.
Maybe it's happening so subtly that I can't see it, but I don't think everyone is pushing that much all the time.
I think you're defining yourself as normal, and rather subtly making a status claim that anyone who doesn't fit in well with you is deficient.
But that example was the only thing I was ever disagreeing with. I honestly don't even remember what this article was originally about any more, I just remember reading the "buy me a drink" example, and thinking "whaaaaaa?". It just weirded me out that something was being cited as an example of a broader phenomenon, as if it was this universally known, obvious thing, when in reality I think it's something that only people involved in the PUA "community" actually believe - which makes it, whether right or wrong, not a very good example.
It's not universally known, but it it more widely known than the PUA circle.
It seems to be understood among the set of guys that have experience successfully attracting girls.
My friends that meet this criteria take it as an obvious rule with a few exceptions, and they didn't learn it from anything "PUA" related- just from experience and observation