Really great post. I can definitely see some "cat" like tendencies in myself that I'd like to know how to change more, like getting irritated at things I see as rude. Any specific ideas on how to change that, or recognize when I'm overreacting, and when I need to speak up so as not to let people get away with treating me badly?

I would like to see more discussion of this on LW, as it applies across the board to all kinds of interactions, and I think it'd be very useful.