I think that's a large part of why I didn't do any of that in the original comment, just in the version that Kaj asked me to post instead! Who should I listen to here, you or Kaj? Which is the real neurotypical standard that I violated?

For the record: I wasn't fully aware of the history and magnitude of this conflict, and I didn't realize Alicorn had specifically asked for you to not reply to her at all.

Regardless, as I remember, both versions of the comment were (are) addressed to Alicorn. It was just more implicit in the first one ("I know someone this advice hasn't been applied to" or something along those lines, I think), but it was still pointing out that Alicorn hadn't applied the technique to you. Therefore it was referencing her, just as strongly as if you'd mentioned her.