Nisan:
I'm not evaluating social and legal norms.
Fair enough, but your previous comments characterized the opposing position as nothing less than "chauvinism." Maybe you didn't intend it to sound that way, but since we're talking about a conflict situation in which the law ultimately has to support one position or the other -- its neutrality would be a logical impossibility -- your language strongly suggested that the position that you chose to condemn in such strong terms should not be favored by the law.
I do think it would be great if [...] cuckolds weren't humiliated just as I hypothetically wouldn't be humiliated.
That's a mighty strong claim to make about how you'd react in a situation that is, according to what you write, completely outside of your existing experiences in life. Generally speaking, people are often very bad at imagining the concrete harrowing details of such situations, and they can get hit much harder than they would think when pondering such possibilities in the abstract. (In any case, I certainly don't wish that you ever find out!)
Generally speaking, people are often very bad at imagining the concrete harrowing details of such situations, and they can get hit much harder than they would think when pondering such possibilities in the abstract.
Fair enough. I can't credibly predict what my emotions would be if I were cuckolded, but I still have an opinion on which emotions I would personally endorse.
the law ultimately has to support one position or the other
Well, I can consider adultery to generally be morally wrong, and still desire that the law be indifferent to adultery. And ...
The title says it all.