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This might sound weird, but: internet chat rooms (is that what "Second Life" is for nowadays?). I know chat rooms have a reputation, but I've read that they've been shown to have potential for actually increasing social skills (I'm searching for the relevant article, but I know I read it in a journal over a year ago).
But, you have to be proactive about it. And of course discerning.
a. You have to find the right venue a.1. chat rooms have a reputation for a reason a.2. you need to go to a venue where everyone is not there to talk about what you typically talk about.
b. You have to be conscious about what you are doing:
b.1. not talking to people who are into what you are into (somewhat redundant to a.2.) b.2 you have to be self-aware of the process...what is working, what isn't b.3. you have to try to step out of your "comfort zone" in order to learn new approaches, new social skills, as it were
The thing is, people are there to talk...so, seek out those people, and talk.
I'm not saying it's "easy"...it's just one idea.
Simpler even than an internet chat room are Omegle (text chat with a random stranger) and Chat Roulette (video chat with a random stranger).
Just one social blunder after another.
You're there to talk, they're there to talk, you say hi, and they disconnect. Where is the "blunder" and who is making it?
No worries, I was just amused. I've chatted on Omegle before. I have actually kept in contact with a couple people, including a young lady from Portugal who sent me YouTube videos of her grandmother and her singing old folk songs.
His most obvious faux pas, if that was Chat Roulette, was not immediately exposing himself--conversants on that forum tend to become suspicious if the expected visual greeting is not performed.
I'm very late to this party, but just in case: to a mundane, "what ho" doesn't look like a casual, old-timey greeting, it looks like a typo for "what a ho". Maybe that's what went wrong here.