Blueberry comments on Unknown knowns: Why did you choose to be monogamous? - Less Wrong

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Comment author: [deleted] 28 June 2010 12:52:24AM 8 points [-]

I found out about poly pretty early and had a generally positive impression of it... in theory.

I do monogamous relationships, at least for the foreseeable future, because I'm pretty much a one-thing-at-a-time person. I don't really multitask -- it's the same phenomenon. I want to focus on one person, and get more intensity out of the relationship.

The other thing is, I'm very private -- I don't like having to tell people about my comings and goings and certainly not my sex life. The whole part about checking in with your primary would rub me the wrong way.

Comment author: Blueberry 28 June 2010 07:36:56AM 4 points [-]

The whole part about checking in with your primary would rub me the wrong way.

I don't think all polyamorous relationships require such checking in, especially if you're uncomfortable with it. But I understand your point about multitasking.