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That's far from all we're attracted to... there's also what some folks refer to as "feminine radiance" - the female counterpart of male confidence or presence, though it's quite different in form. (For example, it involves a lot more smiling.)
I've seen women with this quality draw crowds, even if they're not that young or beautiful-looking (when they're not smiling).
And I would imagine this is a quality that can be taught, just as men can be taught to have increased confidence and presence.
Yep, I know exactly what you're talking about because I met several women like that and I try to learn from them whenever I can. In a more fair and just world, this feminine quality would attract men more than "mere" beauty. But it doesn't. Not even for me; it makes for a pleasant bonus afterward, but it's not really enough to outweigh bad looks up front.
This state of affairs is quite sad and I'm actually trying to change it, modify myself to like "radiant" girls more than pretty girls, because I feel this is the right thing to do. Both for them and for me.
Your parenthetical makes it sound like the effect is transient, perhaps even under control. How sharp is the effect? What do you think of the story about Marilyn Monroe? (original source)