I would like to help. And I may see your problem, you are very sensitive to insults from others but have a harder time seeing when you hurt others. But when you do so you are affected greatly. I just have no idea how to help. My skin is probably overly thick. When I perceive insults, I tend to ignore them and downgrade the insulter as someone with whom I want to interact with or help, rather than kick up a social fuss.

I trust you're aware that this is an ironic complaint coming from someone who attributes his social problems to an autism-spectrum disorder? In any event, I follow discussions like this with morbid fascination, because I sympathize and empathize with both you and your interlocutors. I think you make some really good points that need to be heard, but at the same time I completely understand the criticisms of your tone and manner. On the other hand, I find myself not infrequently tempted to speak in a similar tone, and it often takes a good deal of willpower on my part to avoid doing so; but then again, I would also probably react very negatively, even to the point of bitter resentment, if someone spoke in such a tone to me. I genuinely don't know where I stand on this, so I suppose have to incline towards the group consensus, as reflected by the voting patterns. (Which necessitates, of course, that I not vote myself, so as to avoid a sort of information cascade.)