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Comment author: whpearson 16 July 2010 10:15:56AM *  2 points [-]

I was being brief (and imprecise) in my self-assessment as that wasn't the main point of the comment. I didn't even mean broken in the sense that other might have meant it, i.e. Aspergers.

I just don't enjoy social conversation much normally. I can do it such that the other person enjoys it somewhat. An example, I was chatting to a cute dancer last night (at someone's 30th so I was obliged to), and she invited me to watch her latest dance. I declined because I wasn't into her (or into watching dance). She was nice and pretty, nothing wrong with her, but I just don't tend to seek marginal connections with people because they don't do much for me. Historically the people I connect with have seem to have been people that have challenged me or can make me think in odd directions.

This I understand is an unusual way to pick people to associate with, so I think something in the way I process social signals is different from the norm. This is what I meant.

Comment author: Blueberry 16 July 2010 05:10:33PM 5 points [-]

Do you ever just associate with people you find attractive at first sight? (I can't tell if you're referring to a strip club, or what kind of dancer you mean.)

You may find Prof. Richard Wiseman's research on what makes people "lucky" interesting: his research has found advantages to seeking marginal connections with people you meet.

Comment author: whpearson 16 July 2010 06:00:04PM 3 points [-]

Do you mean sexually attractive? Or just interesting looking? I'll initiate conversation with interesting looking people (that may or may not be sexually attractive).

By dancer I just meant someone who does modern dance, she was a friend of a friend (I have some odd friends by this websites standard I think).

Oh I know I should develop more marginal connections. It simply feels false to do so though, that I am doing so in the hopes of exploiting them, rather than finding them particularly interesting in their own right. I would rather not be cultivated in that fashion.

Comment author: Blueberry 21 July 2010 12:11:45AM 0 points [-]

I meant sexually attractive (you described the dancer as "cute" and "pretty"). Though I guess either would work.