Let's see... My original question was, "if the children said they are harmed then why don't you believe them?" Your answer sounds very much like it isn't that you don't believe them, but that the harm is discounted because it's society's fault.

Yet the original question posed was whether children are harmed or not, not whose fault it was.

But this was obviously a response to that question. derefr suggested that when someone asks the child about the abuse, it's asked in such a way that the child remembers it as abusive. This isn't a statement about society, but about why the child's memory is not necessarily reliable.