testing someone to see if she has feelings for you is kind of a nasty thing to do in general..

You're making a big assumption about what is meant by "test". A test could be anything from simply asking "Do you have feelings for me?" to the sort of mind games I'm guessing you have in mind.

There is an illusion of transparency here - look here for a similar case, resolved successfully - and we should be quick to taboo vague words like "test" when it sounds like someone is saying something objectionable.

To be fair, you sort of did that by asking for clarification, but it would have been better to wait until after you knew what meta_ark meant by "test" before using emotionally charged words like "nasty".