It was, of course, posted as a real-world example of how the "let's be unvarnished" meme tends to work out in practice: people who claim they want unvarnished communication tend to lash out when they actually get some back.

I see no evidence that rationalizations against politeness here are some kind of cryptic anti-woman signaling.

And, of course, I didn't say that, or anything like it. I said that people who demand unvarnished speech tend to mean they want to transmit it, and tend to show little sign of being able to receive it and decode it sensibly.

Put it this way: if erratio got it and you didn't, your inward filtering may need adjustment.