TV really isn't so bad. I honestly find it difficult to entertain the possibility that the 90th percentile church is better than the 90th percentile TV show. I'm sure that there are 99th percentile churches, but I'd expect them to be much more like a good dojo, gym, skateboarding/surfing group, band, community theater or the like. The general purpose word for this sort of thing is civil society. Decent colleges are hotbeds of it.

I guess I'd suggest looking for a really good gym. Or in a major city, the local Less Wrong group.