Argh. Yeah, that sucks. In my university queer society people were generally a lot clearer, although some people did "reject the gender binary (or ternary)", as they put it. I get that sexuality is complicated and individual, but I did occasionally wish people could communicate more clearly.

I guess this is part of the point of gay pride. It's a lot better for everyone with an alternative sexuality if people wear their heart on their sleeves in this respect.