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Comment author: TheOtherDave 10 February 2011 02:38:04AM *  4 points [-]

1: What traits are most important to you in a prospective partner?

Mutual trust... being confident that they aren't going to do things to hurt me or act against my interests, and them being confident of the same with me.

Being able to communicate... that is, when I say things, I feel like they understand what I meant, and vice-versa, and there aren't too many things that we can't talk to each other about.

2: What kind of role would you want your partner(s) to play in your life?

A source of companionship, sex, and emotional support; someone to make long-term plans with.

3: How much time would you spend together, ideally?

A significant chunk of every day/night.

4: How important is it to you that you share similar tastes?

Not very, though a lot depends on available resources. Having surplus resources makes accommodating different tastes much easier.

5: How important is it that you be ideologically similar?

Depends... basically, if we differ on things that are very important to me, that's a problem, but the majority of things I'm fine with difference.

6: What, if anything, are your dealbreakers?

Lack of trust, in either direction. Significant dishonesty. Abuse.