It depends on my preferences.
Also, what does scope neglect have to do with this?
One way to view scope neglect is behaving deontologically instead of consequentially- "I will help birds" vs. "2000 birds will be helped." In this context, I bring it up because the behavior "focusing on being right above all else" is a deontological rule, which is unlikely to maximize your preferences.
The answer is, unless X is important enough to divorce them over, drop the issue or change your mind. The rule to focus on being right above all else is far too strong to be good advice.
On Quora: What are some stupid things smart people do? Examples of common types of stupidity that are typical of otherwise very smart people.
Lee Semel's answer in particular would make a great post here: a "to don't" list. You may wish to go through and identify the cognitive bias or biases each is an example of.