Unfortunately, I can only offer evidence of the "non-ravens are non-black" variety, but that could still be useful.
My experience as a cis male: I have found that at my programming job, where many things are rather unfamiliar, I will spend about 15-60 minutes looking something up rather than ask someone for an answer (which will take about 1 minute). I have also done the directions thing ("We don't need to ask, I'll figure it out!"). I believe my internal motivation is I think I will learn it more strongly / discover other interesting things if I look it up myself, and I perceive some small status loss in looking for help / I don't like bothering other people.
[edit] Something else I should add- I don't appear to have a strong fear of failing. I will blurt out objections in class, and be right more than I'm wrong, but I can shrug off being wrong. It seems likely that this is linked to emotional and reputational security. (There's also significant research showing that men are more likely to guess if they don't know something than just respond that they don't know it, whereas women are more likely to take the opposite approach.)
I will spend about 15-60 minutes looking something up rather than ask someone for an answer (which will take about 1 minute)
Which will take one minute, but has a high chance of knocking them out of the "zone", and regaining focus can easily take 15-20 minutes...
The Trouble with Bright Girls (article @ the Huffington Post)
Excerpt:
The topic of this article seems to relate to several common Less Wrong issues: the nature of human intelligence, and the gender imbalance among LW readers.
I'm not sure how much credence I give to the proposed explanation of the difference in mindsets. It may well have to do with socialization and feedback, but the specific description of feedback that is presented seems a bit too much of a "just-so story" to me. The difference itself is fascinating, though, and I hope more is done to further our understanding of it.