I like seeing groups of people and having interesting discussions regularly, but it makes me even happier when the ideas we share are non contradictory and you don't have a wide range of topics you need to steer clear in case they are instrumental to someone elses identity.

Very good way of putting it. I was very frustrated at times having discussions with Christian friends, and I'm lucky enough to have people outside that circle who I can talk to (for example, my brother, who also reads LessWrong.) It would be even nicer if these people outside my Christian circle had any inclination to a) band together in community, or b) make an effort to be positive, nice, generous, etc.