Desrtopa comments on [LINK] Ethical Pick-Up Artistry (Clarisse Thorn) - Less Wrong

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Comment author: Desrtopa 09 April 2011 02:51:36PM 1 point [-]

No. This

Sex Is Not the Goal. There is no goal. There is only the process: be who you are, and engage with what you encounter on that road.

described my outlook, and still does. I would have been happy to be having sex though.

And it varied; there are simply a number of people, who I spent differing amounts, some quite a lot, of time with, who in retrospect were willing to have sex with me.

Having been in the position of needing good advice, I agree with HughRistik that the advice above is mostly pretty bad unless you're the sort of person who doesn't already need the advice.

Comment author: wedrifid 09 April 2011 03:03:40PM 1 point [-]

(Where 'already' probably fits better a few words earlier.)

Comment author: Desrtopa 09 April 2011 03:17:24PM 0 points [-]

It's not for nothing that my post history is full of comments with edit marks next to them. But now if I correct this one, it'll have a pointless comment box hanging off of it. See what you did?

Comment author: [deleted] 09 April 2011 07:28:31PM 0 points [-]

Are you sure it's bad advice? Maybe it's good advice, but not written explicitly enough. And maybe other advice that is written more explicitly isn't as good, but is defaulted to out of (reasonable!) fear of feeling incompetent.

Comment author: Desrtopa 09 April 2011 07:33:59PM 5 points [-]

It might have been clearer if I'd distinguished between advice that is bad because it suggests unwise courses of action, and advice that is bad because attempting to follow it is not a feasible way to modify your actions for the better. I think it's bad advice of the sort that doesn't provide enough information to be positive or negative.