You are now sneering instead of making an honest attempt to understand what I'm writing. (Although, just to be clear, it wasn't me who downvoted your comment.)

My point is not some arcane insight open only to a superior intellect. On the contrary, examples of it can be seen everywhere in regular life. Kids will throw more tantrums if it always gets them what they want -- and a kid throwing a tantrum is not acting, but under genuine distress. Similarly, when you have to deal with people who create drama over petty things, do you think a better strategy is to appease their every whim or to ignore their drama (and thus disincentivize it)? Again, people of this sort are typically not consciously calculated manipulators who fake their distress when they create drama.