You probably shouldn't tell someone not to use a term unless you have an alternative ready ... that tends to send the message that, "You have to check with me for permission to do anything."
One time I saw a poster object to being called "Miss", but, when asked, didn't have an alternative, and so agreed that "Miss" would be appropriate. Wha? That's like saying, "It's more important that I can tell you what to do than for you to learn manners."
Of course, this is just how it looks from my end, and there isn't yet an interest group for people who have been twisted into a "walk on eggshells" mentality because they've given in to such people too often.
We're excited to have a second Phoenix meetup. As always, absolutely anyone is welcome. This time we'd like to change the location to the Barrett Honors College Dining Hall at ASU (It's extremely nice and has excellent food). I'll be there from 5 to 7 on Saturday and have a copy of Godel, Escher, Bach on the table.
The address is 698-798 Apache Blvd E, Tempe, AZ, and here it is on a map. The parking garage on Lemon is probably ideal, Barrett is south of that.
My phone number is 602-501-9420, feel free to call or text me.