The first also implies that something could be wrong, but your first idea about what needs to be changed might not be accurate.

The first one is about a specific discovery I made as a result of following the second.

Now that you mention it, the third is a somewhat different angle on the first-- I didn't realize how closely linked the three are. The first one is about my finding out a very specific bad approach I've been using.

The third isn't as specific about the problem, but acknowledges that even actions which jam problems into place are well-intended. It was actually a revelation that a mistake I'd made was an effort to improve my life instead of generic evidence about how fucked up I was.

At this point, I'm curious about whatever people might want to say about problems which aren't related to perfectionism.