I wish you'd tried sending me an email, or responding with a comment saying "Is that what you meant to say?", before writing a whole post about it.

I don't see how your intentions or process make the comment any less useful as a case study. Most people reading the anecdote are just going to read it and go "rah!", not think about whether they should check with you. It is that fact which is relevant to our common objectives, and that fact has nothing to do with your intentions or procedure.

The story I tell myself when I read your wish to have been contacted is that you are unhappy about being used as an example of Dark Arts to be Defended against, and wishing you could have vetoed / explained yourself / or at least felt like part of the process. Perhaps you can change your viewpoint to being proud of having generated useful example material to help people learn :).

I mean, we all use the Dark Arts every now and then, it's nothing to be ashamed of. They work at winning over crowds and thus increasing status, even if they are bad for rationality, and we all know which of those we are wired for...