Solvent comments on Rational Romantic Relationships, Part 1: Relationship Styles and Attraction Basics - Less Wrong

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Comment author: Solvent 02 November 2011 07:52:00AM 4 points [-]

This is fantastic. Well researched, fairly well written.

I have a niggling general complaint about how LW seems to use rationality as just a general good word. It just, icks me a bit. I suspect that it might really turn off new readers.

Seriously, my one complaint is that when reading this on an iPad it took me too long to scroll past all the references.

I can't wait to read more of this.

Comment author: [deleted] 03 November 2011 10:54:29AM 5 points [-]

Yeah, there should be a "skip to comments" link before the bibliography, or a show/hide button or something.

Comment author: dbaupp 03 November 2011 12:38:02PM 2 points [-]

I agree that it would be nice for articles with long bibliographies to have a show/hide options (starting hidden). I am unsure how this would be possible at the moment, so a "skip to end" link might have to do.

Comment author: Karmakaiser 02 November 2011 02:50:21PM *  1 point [-]

What would you prefer? Instrumental Rationality is a bit of a mouthful, Common Sense is an abused term is means whatever the speaker believes in, and our super dictionary "Acting as to maximize expected utility" seems formal. I agree we pepper the word Rationality enough that it may turn off outsiders, but I am personally not seeing other terms or phrases that don't either under formalize to the point of meaningless folksiness or over formalize to the point of turning even more people off.

Comment author: thomblake 02 November 2011 02:54:15PM 12 points [-]

If you find that "Rational" belongs at the beginning of most posts, then it can go entirely unsaid.

Much like as I realized just recently, we really don't need a symbol for "such that" in ∃x(Px)

Comment author: qualityisvirtue 03 November 2011 04:05:25AM 0 points [-]

I found the article quite interesting as a new reader, for what it's worth. Would love to see more in this vein as well as the more formal or abstract articles about rationality, bias, etc.

Comment author: DoubleReed 02 November 2011 03:05:30PM *  -1 points [-]

I actually don't like the word "rationality" at all considering that it is most commonly used to mean rationalization which is of course not rationality. If somebody is "rational" I usually think of it to mean "he has justified his actions to himself" or "he has common sense" (common sense being a terrible thing). I prefer the word "logic" as mathematician, but maybe that's associated with proofs instead of probabilities or something.

But whatever, just sematics and definitions.

Comment author: kilobug 02 November 2011 03:34:21PM 1 point [-]

Well, the two have a different meaning to me. Logic is a class of mathematical systems, like first-order logic. But logic stays within an axiomatically constructed system, it doesn't claim or pretend to have a direct link with "reality".

Rationality is the art of using such a system in relation to reality - to understand reality, predict it, and therefore gain the power to steer it in a preferred direction.

Logic itself will never tell you if the universe uses Newtonian or relativistic laws of motion. Both systems are logically consistent. But rationality will tell you that relativistic laws of motion are a closer map of reality than Newtonian laws of motion (but that Newtonian laws of motion is still a very valid map for daily life).

Comment author: DoubleReed 02 November 2011 04:34:50PM 0 points [-]

Yea, this is a good explanation. Logic seems to be considered as more abstract rules, while rationality seems to apply it to reality.

Although considering Bayes Theorem is a logical, mathematical construct, I could certainly argue against the idea that "logic doesn't claim or pretend to have a direct link with reality".

Comment author: kilobug 02 November 2011 04:43:34PM 0 points [-]

Well, I would say Bayes Theorem itself is purely logical, but realizing how it applies to updating your belief network and scoring your hypothesis, and then using it that way, especially the part of devising tests that could falsify your hypothesis, is rationality. I knew Bayes Theorem before discovering Less Wrong, I even knew a bit about Bayesian networks in computer science, but I never realized how deep Bayes Theorem was (and how it was a more powerful, more technical version of the scientific method) before reading the "intuitive explanation" and the Sequences.

But of course, the two are far from totally isolated. Words are fuzzy boundaries, not precise definitions.

Comment author: wedrifid 02 November 2011 05:08:24PM 2 points [-]

I never realized how deep Bayes Theorem

It's only 'deep' if you have to dredge it up and out from a pile of bullshit. ;)

Comment author: DoubleReed 02 November 2011 05:23:22PM 0 points [-]

Applying Bayes Theorem is just applying logic to your life. It follows directly from the theorem. That would make you logical.

Or perhaps we are just differentiating from the abstract and the real.

Comment author: [deleted] 03 November 2011 10:57:01AM 0 points [-]

How about "decision theory"?