wedrifid comments on Rational Romantic Relationships, Part 1: Relationship Styles and Attraction Basics - Less Wrong

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Comment author: wedrifid 11 November 2011 03:25:44PM 7 points [-]

You make a very good point here. But you see, women don't find men who try to be nice to them attractive. They call it "clingy", "creepy" behavior. Human male-female interaction is actually a signalling game, where the man being nice simply sends a signal of weakness. Women are genetically programmed to only let alpha sperm in, and the alpha is not a character who goes around being nice to strangers.

Oversimplified to the extent that it is basically not true.

Comment author: anonymous259 11 November 2011 09:51:37PM 1 point [-]

But you see, women don't find men who try to be nice to them attractive...Women are genetically programmed to only let alpha sperm in

Oversimplified to the extent that it is basically not true.

And yet I would bet that it is still closer to true than I approve of. In particular, closer to true than the mental model used by the naive "nice guy"/"beta".

Comment author: usedToPost 16 November 2011 06:08:44PM 1 point [-]

You comment would be more useful if you said which ways it is oversimplified, and which additions and caveats you think are most important to restore it to being true.

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