Passive aggressive? Obnoxious? WHAT? I gave an example of the kind so that whatever conversation wouldn't be derailed by "Where are your links?" demands.

The implied point seems to be some sort of claim that the type of statement had not been made in the thread up to that point. Rather than asserting that explicitly or even just upvoting lessdazed's remark you made it harder for people to wade through this conversation.

This is the second time you have leveled that charge at me inappropriately in the last few days.

Most humans will generally not be very good evaluators of whether their comments contribute well to signal/noise issues. So the assertion that they are inappropriate isn't that helpful. Although the fact that your earlier comment where I did make that remark is currently at +2 tentatively suggests that more people than not disagree with my assessment in that context. In that context, it does strongly look like you were using inflammatory language whether or not you realized that it would be so.

I can only assume it is personal (and passive aggressive) because otherwise it makes no sense.

It isn't personal. Until you pointed it out I didn't even remember that my other comment in the context of the SMBC cartoon was to you. I suppose it could have been occurring in some sort of back of my mind, but I don't think so. Also, I don't think there's anything that passive aggressive about those sorts of remarks, I'd consider my comments to be missing the "passive" bit and being pretty aggressive statements of noting when things are not helpful for rational discussion here.

But if you want even more blunt I can do so: You are coming across as a dick. Your earlier "pussy" remark made you come across as a sexist dick. When one is having a conversation about a controversial issue involving sex and gender issues it is generally a good idea to not come across as a sexist dick because it will a) emotionally inflame people who don't agree with you and make them less likely to listen to you and b) turn away from Less Wrong people who might otherwise be interested in seeing what Less Wrong is about.

In general, calm interaction is better than hot interaction. Explicitly stated points are better than implicit and vague points. Polite statements are better than uncivil statements. I've been repeatedly tempted to go through most of this thread and just downvote everyone for making Less Wrong resemble the areas of the internet I try to avoid. It is very clear that the issues being touched on here are mindkillers for many people, and that the karma scores involved reflect to a large extent which mindkilled tribalistic groups happen to have more people around here not in any substantial way a reflection of the arguments (except to a very weak level). None of these are good things. You are, along with other people, acting in a way that makes these problems more, not less extreme. None of this is good if one is trying to actually have rational dialogue.