You sound like you are quaking in your boots at the hypothetical reaction of these non-neurotypical women.

It's not hypothetical. Discussion of effective methods of appealing to women have led to tremendous flamewars here. Indeed, that's why it's so rare to see mention of the very interesting PUA ("Pick up artist", see LW wiki or google) phenomenon.

What do you need to say?

I'm really not the expert on this matter, but those who are knowledgeable about PUA have insight into how women see things, and virtually every insight from that field is offensive, at least when not watered down into corporatespeak. (Note: this does NOT mean trying to date women as a means of or result of drawing them in, but rather, that the appreciation of the real, rather than stated, female mindset that PUAs have will provide more general insights.)