It may be unpleasant to realize that most people don't particularly care about your thoughts or feelings capability or even your well-being except instrumentally, but it is true.

Do you mean that this is true of how people interact with other people in general, or specifically how men interact with women?

You have to explain to people why they should see you as a human being, and what seeing you as a human being actually looks like, or they will simultaneously fail to understand why they should, and fail to understand how they are not doing so already.

They should because it's self-evident that I am a human being? To me, at least. I spend a lot of time in a male-dominant community (atheists/skeptics/rationalists cluster), and even more time in a female-dominated domain (nursing), and my conversations among females are no more dominated by emotion than those among males. We have conversations to share useful information and ask for practical advice, to tell morbid anecdotes that we all find hilarious, to share personal goals, to point out new discoveries in medicine that we think are fascinating and exciting, etc etc etc. It's so freaking obvious to me that this whole gender thing just Does. Not. Matter.

Most people in my immediate social circle already do this right, including the local Less Wrong group. It's all the more jarring when I'm reminded that right, this whole feminism thing isn't a moot point yet after all.

you will not unlock the puzzle-box that has ownership of me as the prize.

If that is someone's goal in talking to women in general, they are doing it wrong, no matter the content and tone of their discussion.

I get that some women's revealed preferences seem to indicate that they expect and want to be treated this way. This is deeply confusing to me. Anyone who wants ownership of me as a prize for their interesting conversation is going to be disappointed, because that prize is not on the table.