Perhaps you want to be treated as an equal - seen as a terminal value rather than as an instrumental tool or resource?

This may be a little on the pedantic side, but people are not values. They may factor into values, terminal or otherwise, in some way -- you might for example want to maximize their happiness or their preference satisfaction -- but if you say "Alice is a terminal value to me" or "Bob is an instrumental value", you haven't actually said anything well-defined about how to optimize your behavior. You haven't even said anything about how they relate to other people in your value system: you can weight values differently, and it's entirely consistent to treat Alice and Bob's happiness as (separate) terminal values while weighting Alice's needs over Bob's in every situation where they come into conflict.