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My relationship story is almost the complete opposite of Luke's. I didn't date anyone until I met my wife through a matchmaker (mutual acquaintance), and we've been happily married for four years.
And then there's Eliezer's story of his girlfriend expressing interest over the Internet due to learning about his work.
Generalizing from three examples, my conclusion is this: in romance, as in all things, seek your comparative advantage. (Mine happens to be coming from a culture with a strong tradition of matchmaking. :)
Music (as I am quite accomplished) is my Alpha high-ground advantage. I met my (now ex-) wife through the Emerson Lake & Palmer 'Fanzine For The Common Man', and throughout my life my best relationships have usually come with people who share my musical tastes and aptitudes. Marcus Buckingham has many good ideas on the psycho-biological development of personal strengths, particularly in 'Go Put Your Strengths To Work'. He is associated with Donald Clifton and Tom Rath, the developers of 'Strengths Finder'.