Save your charity for where it's useful: disputes where the other side actually has a chance of being right (or at least informing you of something that's worth being informed of).

From my vantage point, you seem positively fixated on wanting to extract something of value from traditional human religions ("theism"). This is about as quixotic as it's possible to get. Down that road lies madness, as Eliezer would say.

You seem to be exemplifying my theory that people simply cannot stomach the notion that there could be an entire human institution, a centuries-old corpus of traditions and beliefs, that contains essentially zero useful information. Surely religion can't be all wrong, can it? Yes, actually, it can -- and it is.

It's not that there never was anything worth learning from theists, it's just that by this point, everything of value has already been inherited by our intellectual tradition (from the time when everyone was a theist) and is now available in a suitably processed, relevant, non-theistic form. The juice has already been squeezed.

For example, while speaking of God and monads, Leibniz invented calculus and foreshadowed digital computing. Nowadays, although we don't go around doing monadology or theodicy, we continue to hold Leibniz in high regard because of the integral sign and computers. This is what it looks like when you learn from theists.

And if you're going to persist in being charitable to people who continue to adhere to the biggest epistemic mistakes of yesteryear, why stop at mere theism? Why not young-earth creationism? Why not seek out the best arguments of the smartest homeopaths? Maybe this guy has something to teach us, with his all-encompassing synthesis of the world's religious traditions. Maybe I should be more charitable to his theory that astrology proves that Amanda Knox is guilty. Don't laugh -- he's smart enough to write grammatical sentences and present commentary on political events that is as coherent as that offered by anyone else!

My aim here is not (just) to tar-and-feather you with low-status associations. The point is that there is a whole universe of madness out there. Charity has its limits. Most hypotheses aren't even worth the charity of being mentioned. I can't understand why you're more interested in the discourse of theism than in the discourse of astrology, unless it's because (e.g.) Christianity remains a more prestigious belief system in our current general society than astrology. And if that's the case, you're totally using the wrong heuristic to find interesting and important ideas that have a chance of being true or useful.

To find the correct contrarian cluster, start with the correct cluster.