magfrump comments on New Post version 2 (please read this ONLY if your last name beings with l–z) - Less Wrong

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Comment author: magfrump 28 July 2011 03:44:46PM *  6 points [-]

Normally I like seeing individual stories and anecdotes and having information broken down into small pieces. Insofar as I might be interested in self-modifying toward polyamory in the future I think that this post would be helpful.

On the other hand, I was skeeved just like many other commenters. Major parts of that may have been from:

  • I think I would have had a different initial reaction to Alice; more like an appreciation of her commitment than a sense of suboptimality.
  • You say that you "scored [your] first one-night stand" then immediately go on to say how you do not enjoy casual flings. One part of my brain that I am not sure whether I endorse tells me that this means you are manipulating women, and another part tells me that you aren't even enjoying it, which turns into strengthening that negative response even though I am not sure if I want it. An extra sentence after the first one night stand before the statement about not enjoying them would help.
  • Abrupt changes of subject make me feel weird and displaced, and you grouped it with other topics (like not talking about mathematics while flirting) that I am only just starting to come around to.